Life is just movement — from one possibility to the next.

But our psychological framework chooses the comfort of the familiar over living a full life.

If you are meeting new situations, you are growing. 

The moment you avoid the unfamiliar, your world is smaller.

The fear is not of the unknown — it is the fear that the unknown may bring suffering.

When your inner chemistry is in order within yourself, the unfamiliar is exciting; it becomes a place where your intelligence stays alive.

If you want to live a life that feels alive, you have to start with tremendous awareness.

We typically go through our day on autopilot.

Reacting to life from under the spell of our past behavior.

It’s automatic.

If you just watch, you will begin to see where the mind quietly keeps you trapped.

You’ll see,

Logic is the prison and the guard.

We must remain in our awareness and watch for the moments when something appears that could genuinely shift things.

A conversation.

An invitation.

A possibility.

A person.

And see if you can catch the moment you reinforce the prison walls around yourself.

This is not a way to make better choices.

It's a way to use the moment of choice to reveal how we trap ourselves.  

It is about seeing that we use old habits to avoid the feelings we don’t like. 

Remember Logic is the pill that numbs us, it feels sensible.

Familiar.

Responsible.

Change does not.

The trap works by keeping us stuck in two directions:

Paralysis while you overthink.

Or a quick kneejerk reaction you don’t even see.

So first — begin watching.

And see that we are often reacting to our emotions. 

It's our emotions that pull us into a knee jerk reaction.  

It’s us wanting to avoid that feeling. 

There’s something useful to know: the chemical rush of an emotion passes quickly — around 90 seconds to leave the body. 

So…

If a feeling still lingers after that, it’s because you held it there, by looping in the same thought.

So take your time.

Start watching yourself, be playful with this, it's not about getting it right, just about developing awareness.

If you catch it in time, pause. 

If you don’t, course-correct after.

But before you begin do this: Remove the demand for the perfect choice as if there is a right one.

You see, we often suffer because we believe: “My life will be determined by getting this right.”

Even that belief is the logic trap.

So the first movement is seeing: Life is not waiting on this decision to begin.

That immediately softens the mind’s urgency.

Now become aware and ask yourself a simple question: What did I base this choice on?

Is it coming from the past — and does that past belong in my future? 

See the logic you used to land on that choice.

I was speaking with someone recently who was trying to decide whether to take a trip.

Nothing dramatic.

But the more they thought, the further they moved from their own life in the present, and into the habit of being their past.

So we stopped.

They felt the air on the back of their hands.

Their breath.

Their feet on the ground.

For a few seconds, there was no problem to solve.

Just a quiet sense of whether the movement felt alive.

We removed the weight of making the right choice.

And remember, this is not about following the strongest feeling.

Excitement can be escape.

Fear in disguise.

A future projection.

The deeper question is: Am I trying to secure a psychological future — or meeting the aliveness and the possibilities that are here now?

Fear may still be there.

Fear is not wrong.

It is the edge of what is known.

So for this month — if you want to take it on — focus on course correcting.

Catching yourself after a rash decision is a powerful way to begin shifting.

At first, it’s hard to see it in the moment. 

The habit is too fast.

So notice it afterwards and…

Change your mind.

Take a different step.

Call someone back.

Apologize if you need to — not for the decision, but for reacting from the past.

This is how the pattern begins to loosen.

A decision made from awareness does not give you certainty.

It simply leads you to a life that is alive.

“Why do you stay in prison, when the door is so wide open?”

                                                                                        — Rumi

Paul

P.S. If this topic (or any of my other letters) sparked a question, you can drop it here.  I read and answer them all.